Parental alienation is a challenging and serious situation. This situation is best supported by legal assistance that specifically understands parental alienation and the services of a safe and respectful counselor. My approach draws on years of personal experience and an ever-deepening passion for families who are attempting to cope with an adversarial divorce and/or suffering from estrangement.
Appropriate legal support understands the consequences of parental alienation and will advocate for your continued relationship with your child(ren). This legal support will also help you understand your rights and work with you and the courts to hold the other parent accountable in their job as co-parent.
Therapeutic support is helpful, if not necessary, because of the significant challenges presented during this type of experience. For parents, examples of challenges include false accusations, estrangement from children, financial strains and the slow moving legal process. Internal struggles arise as well, such as doubt, resentment, hopelessness and a sense of isolation. For your children, they are working to make sense of this as well, and Synergetic Play Therapy can provide incredible support.
If you believe this situation is occurring within your family, please call today. Often, the most beneficial action required at this time is supporting yourself and building your own resilience through coping skills, self-care, and emotional regulation. This will help you cultivate the resources necessary to continue to be present for yourself and your children during a most challenging time. Genuine Heart Counseling utilizes, among other skills, Buddhist teachings, such as non-aggression, impermanence, non-attachment, Buddha-nature and sitting meditation to offer such support. Click here for more information.
Behaviors of Parental Alienation Syndrome:
- Access and Contact Blocking
- Unfounded Abuse Allegations
- Deterioration of Relationship Since Separation
- Intense Fear Reaction by Child
(please reference J. Michael Bone for further information)
Other possible behaviors include:
- giving children choices around visits when there are no choices available
- telling children everything about the marital relationship
- refusing to acknowledge children have property that may want to travel between households
- not allowing access to school or medical records or extracurricular activities
- setting up temptations that interfere with visitation
- scheduling so many activities that the other parent does not have any time for visits; when the targeted parent protests, they are described as not caring or selfish
(please reference parentalalienation.org for further information)
Cautionary matter regarding Parental Alienation and Parental Alienation Syndrome: This is a complex situation that usually requires additional support from a lawyer who has experience and training in Parental Alienation. If this is your current situation, please educate yourself about your rights and how you can protect yourself and your relationship with your children.